Progress, Not Perfection
In some cases, even though the drinker agrees there is a problem, he or she may be unable or unwilling to act as quickly or directly as you would like. Keep in mind that alcohol-related habits are hard to end or control. If your friend is struggling, try to:
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Remain supportive by recognizing the effort the person puts into even small attempts to limit drinking.
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Be prepared for some steps backward as well as forward.
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Help your friend make contact with recovering alcoholics.
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Encourage nondrinking behavior by planning activities not related to alcohol and by curbing your own drinking when you are with your friend.
Adapted from material made available to the American College Health Association by the University Health Services, University of Massachusetts, copyright 2002.
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An Experiment
Try an experiment at your next party:
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Between each drink, substitute a glass of soda or ice water and eat whatever nibblers are available.
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Let at least one-half hour lapse between finishing one alcoholic drink and beginning the next alcoholic drink. See if you don't feel more relaxed and consume less alcohol.
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Some people are just plain thirsty after arriving at a party. Try this: drink two glasses of soda or ice water before consuming your first alcoholic beverage. This helps quench your thirst and may relieve empty stomach grumbling.
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Another experiment is to set a limit as to how many drinks you will have, and stick to that limit.
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Part of your decision-making process should take into account when, where, what, and with whom you are drinking.
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Recognize that everyone has the right to abstain from drinking and respect that right.
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If experiments like this do not work for you, it may be a good time to examine the role that alcohol plays in your life.
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Binge Drinking: a buzz word...
Imagine sitting in a restaurant and seeing the guy next to you drinking an entire six-pack of soda in one sitting. Pretty strange, huh? Now imagine that person drinking a six-pack of beer in one sitting. What do you think about that? Some college students can watch or participate in this behavior without a second thought.
Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) state that:
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For males, social scientists define binge drinkers as someone who has five or more drinks at any one time within a two-week period.
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For females, the consumption rate is four or more drinks at one sitting during a two-week period.
The Bacchus and Gamma Peer Education Network reports that:
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44% of U.S. college students engaged in binge drinking during the two weeks prior to being surveyed.
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Students who are active in athletics are 1-1/2 times more likely to binge drink.
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Binge drinkers were 16 times more likely to miss class, have unprotected sex, damage property and get injured than non-binge drinkers.
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Between 75% and 90% of all violence on campus is drinking related.
Binge drinking may result in alcohol poisoning, which is a Medical Emergency!
People with the following symptoms cannot help themselves and it is up to you to get immediate medical attention for them:
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Unresponsive to someone talking or shouting at them
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Unresponsive to being shaken
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Unable to wake up
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Unable to stand up
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Slow, loud, or unusual breathing
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Purplish skin
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Clammy skin
Sex Under the Influence
The problem with the use of alcohol, especially too much alcohol, as a substitute for real comfort is that you put yourself at risk physically, emotionally and even spiritually. When you drink to make things easier, things usually get more difficult. Maybe not at that moment, but often afterwards.
"When I went to the party I didn't plan on sleeping with anyone. When I woke up with him in the morning. I wished I hadn't. I guess I must have had more than a couple of beers."
"Great smile, really likable…When she showed an interest in me, I was thrilled. It was a fun night and I guess everything felt right because I went home with her. Then, in the morning, her attitude was really different. I felt angry at both of us."
Some Facts to Consider:
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50% or more of all rapes are alcohol related.
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67% of women were intoxicated when an unplanned pregnancy occurred.
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72% of all offenders in assault cases had been using alcohol.
Date Rape -- Going Too Far
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If you're too drunk to understand a person trying to say "No."
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If you're too drunk to listen and respect a person trying to say "No."
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If you have sex with a person who is incapable of giving consent.
It is Rape!!
Even if you think you would never in a thousand years force sex on a person, you might lose control if you've been drinking.
It has happened before, and thousands of college students have suffered the consequences. In these situations, drinking does not excuse the crime or make things easier for you or the person in question. Although alcohol may help you rationalize sexually aggressive behaviors,
Rape is rape, drunk or sober!
The most valuable weapon against unwanted sexual situations is a clear line of communication. You have to make your limits known and the earlier the better -to eliminate the guessing game.
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What Is Alcoholism?
If alcohol abuse is not treated, it can progress into alcoholism. When drinking becomes physically or psychologically addictive, it is considered ALCOHOLISM.
What Are the Warning Signs for Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism?
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Needing alcohol to cope with strong positive or negative feelings
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Driving a car while under the influence of alcohol
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Gulping drinks to feel the effects more quickly
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Becoming angry or depressed while drinking
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"Blacking out" or not remembering what took place while you were drinking
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Neglecting people and events that don't involve drinking
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Using alcohol to relieve stress or sleeplessness
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Being able to handle larger and larger amounts of alcohol over time
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Having a few extra drinks when others won't notice
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Being uncomfortable at occasions when alcohol is not available
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Wanting to continue drinking when others say you have had enough
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Feeling a little guilty about your drinking
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Being secretly irritated when someone talks to you about your drinking
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Having a reason for the occasions when you drink heavily
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When sober, regretting things that you have said or done while drinking
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Failing to keep promises about controlling or cutting down on drinking
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Having the shakes and finding that it helps to have a little drink
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Eating very little or irregularly when you are drinking
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Having an increasing number of work, family, social, or school problems
"One morning you wake up and open your eyes. Your head feels like it weighs way too much... Your brain hurts... You feel mildly nauseated and you can't tell if you need to eat or eating will make you sick... Next to you in bed is a man. Perhaps you know him, perhaps you don't."
Caroline Knapp, Drinking: A Love Story
Awareness is your best defense!
Here are a few suggestions for staying aware and alert:
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Be wary about accepting drinks from anyone you don't know well or long enough to trust.
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If you are accepting a drink, make sure it's from an unopened container and that you open it yourself.
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Don't put your drink down and leave it unattended.
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Notify other females you know about the effects of this dangerous drug.
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If you think that you have been a victim, notify the authorities immediately!!!
And some additional thoughts for men:
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Women are our partners, sisters, mothers, cousins, and friends. We need to join with them in making life safe and happy for all of us.
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Let your female friends know about the devastating potential this drug has when used by unscrupulous men on unsuspecting women to try to avoid the personal responsibility for committing sexual assault and rape.
The decision to drink any alcoholic beverage is your choice alone. Learn to say "no" to those who push you into drinking more than you should.
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